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[Medic2]

Well just broke up with this girl and I am wondering how do you deal with the seporation? Got any tips? advice?

I just keep running trought my head what I did wrong ect ect and its allways hard, just feel like a big girl as i just want to go cry

[Sappmer]

You would probably need to do things to take your mind off of the relationship. So put anything that is related to her in a box out of sight (for good memories at a later date) to begin with. Then just work really hard at work, or do some housework or something. Try to keep busy as it will keep your mind off of the relationship until you are emotionally over it.

If you can't find any work, then join some clubs.

And don't drink or mope around.

Edited by Sappmer, 12 October 2011 - 03:24 PM.

[Peteee]

paintball.

[MacGregor]

She got a sister?

[NewhamSC]

Well just broke up with this girl and I am wondering how do you deal with the seporation? Got any tips? advice?

I just keep running trought my head what I did wrong ect ect and its allways hard, just feel like a big girl as i just want to go cry

£2000 and a trip to Vegas with the lads, you will come back and forget who she is!

[GaryW]

She got a sister?

Best Advice. Ever.

Seriously though the best thing to do is move on. concentrate on the sort of things that she probably prevented you from doing whilst you were dating. Join some clubs, classes, whatever. Get out an about.

I'll also add the 'Don't drink' advice.

[antsimkins]

My ex left me right before Christmas, by the New Year I had applied to become a special and since then put her out of my thoughts.
As the others have said, keep yourself occupied and put any thoughts of her to one side, and enjoy life

[Burnsy2023]

Also keep yourself around friends as a support network, it stops you becoming isolated.

I don't take breakups very well at all.

[oohraa]

uniformdating.com <--- This is the way forward! <3

[GaryW]

I thought dating was rather uniform anyway?
1. Ask girl out.
2. Go out for dinner.
3. Compliment her.
4. Make dull conversation about her interests.
5. Pay the bill.
6. Take her home.
7. Fail to get invited in for coffee.
8. Sulk.

Fairly uniform when I was dating anyway....

[Sappmer]

I thought dating was rather uniform anyway?
1. Ask girl out.
2. Go out for dinner.
3. Compliment her.
4. Make dull conversation about her interests.
5. Pay the bill.
6. Take her home.
7. Fail to get invited in for coffee.
8. Sulk.

Fairly uniform when I was dating anyway....

Why don't you just get your own coffee at home? Since when has it been the duty of the other party to ensure your coffee needs are satisfied?

[bensonby]

I've never broken up with my only girlfriend......might be time....fancy taking her off my hands?

[Shikari]

Simple truth is you just do. But don't become bitter about it like I have in the past. Go join a club, get your friends around you, make new friends, even have a couple of one-night stands if you want. You will get over them eventually, but it does take an irritating amount of time, especially if you're still 'friends'.

[hathaway]

Time heals everything. Problem is, time takes time.

Try this. Whenever you picture her, turn the image in your head black and white. Then start shrinking it into the distance, smaller and smaller, to the size of a postage stamp, then further into the blackness til it's gone.

Rinse and repeat

[Chewie]

Well just broke up with this girl and I am wondering how do you deal with the seporation?

I may be reading this wrong, but you broke up with her, right? You must have done that for a good reason, so surely that's got to help ease some of the stress?

If it's the other way round and she's split up with you, then ignore the above!! For what it's worth, you will get over it - I dunno how long you were together for, but it's never easy when you split from someone you cared about, but time is a great healer and eventually you'll wonder what all the fuss was about...

[Josh'Grizzly'Gregory]

Best advice I received after my fiance ditched me (which very nearly destroyed me which wasn't good because I was still a special in training) was; hit the gym, train and carry on with life.

It was the best advice ever I went to the gym more often (almost 4 times a week for an hour at a time) and cycled almost everywhere just because. It made me feel amazing about myself and sent my self esteem sky rocketing up, when in doubt... DEADLIFT!

[Medic2]

the split was messy and ended in a argument and well yh was kinda wow split up.
Yh I went for a run after she told me and cleared my mind, but when I sat down again I could nto sit still as I kept thinking of them. So went to work and fogot about them and well Im over it realy. move on and looking forward to being single!

[Josh'Grizzly'Gregory]

the split was messy and ended in a argument and well yh was kinda wow split up.
Yh I went for a run after she told me and cleared my mind, but when I sat down again I could nto sit still as I kept thinking of them. So went to work and fogot about them and well Im over it realy. move on and looking forward to being single!

That's the way just get those feel good endorphins going and you'll find yourself someone else without a doubt, good luck.

[SEADOG]

I am going through this at the minute, what do I do after 5 years, I am so worried!

[Merlin820]

Sorry to hear, Seadog and Medic, not easy.

Good advice not to drink (if you do of course). It blocks the pain at the time but comes back worse when you start to sober up, with a hangover. Not good.

If you can get away for a couple of days, that always helps. Allow yourself some time just to go with whatever you feel - whether that's crying, just sitting silently or feeling angry etc. When I've gone through a break-up, I like to be alone some of the time, which friends find quite hard as they feel they should be there but alone I can just be as I want to be, if that makes sense, without having to plaster on false smiles or make small talk.

[SkinSte]

Get laid ASAP.

Talk to mates, family.

Chuck everything in and go on a round the world trip.

Take up some extreme exercise or sport.

Drink lots.

Keep calm and carry on.

Everyone copes in different ways, lots of things to do, what works best for you is, well, down to you!

[Sappmer]

Get laid ASAP.

No.


This would be unfair to the person involved. Not to mention it will probably be an emotional mountain to climb as there will probably still be the feeling of guilt (and not to mention the pain and sorrow) of trying to get to such an objective.


Just my two pence, I'm in the mind that you should only sleep with those you love. Reduces all sorts of complications straight away.

[Gallifrey]

So put anything that is related to her in a box out of sight (for good memories at a later date) to begin with.

Or take my recommendation and throw them away

[Sappmer]

Or take my recommendation and throw them away

But I'm sure there would have been many items that relate to the most fantastic of memories.The aim usually isn't to bury and forget, it's to lock away, learn from the mistakes, and reminisce the good times later on.

[Medic2]

Im in two minds if i should delete the photos, 1 i dont want to look at them but I dont want to delete them :/